This is the OSS portion of enterprise PR 3822.
Adds a custom gRPC balancer that replicates the router's server cycling
behavior. Also enables automatic retries for RESOURCE_EXHAUSTED errors,
which we now get for free.
The new balancer is a patched version of gRPC's default pick_first balancer
which removes the behavior of preserving the active subconnection if
a list of new addresses contains the currently active address.
Previously, public referred to gRPC services that are both exposed on
the dedicated gRPC port and have their definitions in the proto-public
directory (so were considered usable by 3rd parties). Whereas private
referred to services on the multiplexed server port that are only usable
by agents and other servers.
Now, we're splitting these definitions, such that external/internal
refers to the port and public/private refers to whether they can be used
by 3rd parties.
This is necessary because the peering replication API needs to be
exposed on the dedicated port, but is not (yet) suitable for use by 3rd
parties.
