defaultMetrics was being set at package import time, which meant that it received an instance of
the original default. But lib/telemetry.InitTelemetry sets a new global when it is called.
This resulted in the metrics being sent nowhere.
This commit changes defaultMetrics to be a function, so it will return the global instance when
called. Since it is called after InitTelemetry it will return the correct metrics instance.
Gauge metrics are great for understanding the current state, but can somtimes hide problems
if there are many disconnect/reconnects.
This commit adds counter metrics for connections and streams to make it easier to see the
count of newly created connections and streams.
Occasionally this test would flake. The flakes were fixed by:
1. Stopping the service and retrying to check on metrics. This way we
also include the active_streams going to 0 in the metric calls.
2. Using a reference to the global Metrics. This way when other tests
have background goroutines that are still shutting down, they won't
emit metrics to the metric instance with the fake Sink. The stats
test can patch the local reference to the global, so the existing
statHandlers will continue to emit to the global, but the stats
test will send all metrics to the replacement.
